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Anger is a feeling that everyone has sometimes. But when people feel anger a lot, and it is very intense and hard to control, it can hurt the person's life. It can make work and relationships difficult.
In this blog post, we will explore the concept of the anger iceberg and how it can help us understand the hidden triggers and emotions behind our anger.
Anger, a primary emotion, is often used to describe a wide range of emotional states. It could mean feeling frustrated, resentful, hostile, or even dangerous. Anger can be triggered by a certain event or person, but it can also arise from emotions hidden beneath, that are not easy to identify.
Remember that anger is a valid emotion.
The anger iceberg is a metaphor used to describe the range of deeper emotions and experiences that are connected to our anger. The idea is that only a small part of our true feelings about an event or person can be seen on the surface, while most of them remain hidden beneath the surface.
If someone cuts you off in traffic, you may feel angry on the surface. However, if you dig deeper, there may be other emotions and experiences such as fear, insecurity, or resentment that are associated with this event but which remain hidden beneath the surface.
The tip of the anger iceberg is when you see someone express anger in a physical way, like yelling, slamming doors, or throwing things. However, there are usually unexpressed emotions that contribute to this visible anger.
This is the first step to developing emotional intelligence.
The hidden part of anger icebergs is the emotions that cause us to be angry, such as fear, sadness, or frustration. By identifying these raw feelings and practicing anger management, we can begin to understand what is really causing our anger and address the problem at its root.
Things that can make us angry are called anger triggers. By learning about our triggers, we can learn to control our anger and other emotions involved. This means we can either stop ourselves from getting angry in the first place or deal with our anger in a more helpful way.
Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment and paying attention to our thoughts, other feelings, and sensations. This means that we notice what is happening around us and inside us without judging it as good or bad.
Becoming more aware of your emotions and how they contribute to your anger is important.
By developing coping skills, we can control our anger problem when we experience it. These could be things like taking deep breaths, picturing something calming, or counting to ten.
Both can help you explore your own anger with the Anger Iceberg, a model which suggests that beneath a person's outwardly expressed anger lies underlying issues and other complex emotions like fear, shame, and hurt.
By having healing conversations about the underlying feelings at the core of your anger, they can help you understand why this primary emotion arises in particular situations and provide tools for managing your mental health.
Unhealthy ways to deal with anger include shouting, lashing out at people, or blaming others for your emotions. These methods can hurt relationships and cause more damage than good.
Passive aggression is a form of expressing anger without directly confronting the person responsible. This could look like ignoring people, procrastinating on tasks, or deliberately sabotaging someone else's work.
⚠️ Disclaimer: The content of this video is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice or treatment. Consult a qualified health professional for any medical concerns.
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